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my failure log for 2025

my failure log for 2025

Previously: [ (2022) | (2023) | (2024) ]

Here are a list of my personal failures in 2025 in no particular order.

  1. I sense that this year I grew too attached to my routines, my things, and my way of doings. I wonder if this is a byproduct of getting older. But I felt less "free" if I'm honest. It might again have been a coping strategy. Or perhaps I have started to value my time more vs. always trying to appease others which is why this feels wrong in a way.

  2. I socialised less. It was a year of keeping to myself more, avoiding big crowds, being less outwardly friendly, smiley, and welcoming. This wasn't antisocial I don't think. It was more a coping strategy I feel. Again, only a few instances that I regret but perhaps some were a way to be more comfortable with myself.

  3. I autopiloted (less than last year though). This happens every year for me. After a certain point, I figure out a way to carry on with my day to day life, my work, my hobbies, interests, and passions and then it all feels like a blur. I suspect this is related to underlying feeling of being overwhelmed.

    3a. This often presents itself with breakdowns of structure and order. Should I have maintained my documents and paperwork better this year? Yes. Should I have done more to clean, dust, upkeep my things? Yes. Did I know I should be doing them? Also yes but I chose to let them entropise. This also presented itself in being too "go with the flow" on important life decisions like home ownership, growth opportunities, community work, and so on.

  4. I continue to do too much. This appears to not change year on year. I do think I said no to a lot more things this year. But this isn't about fomo any more. My hypothesis is that I have become quite good at finding stuff to do and see and get involved in. This has formed a way to fill out my days and headspace so I don't have to think about more critical things. A strange procrastination in a way. The things I fill my life out are still fulfilling - but are they just a way for me to continue streaming life? I will need to think more about this.

  5. I was too fearful of failing. Let's just say I may have attached to the idea of not trying = not failing too much. This also means I don't win.

  6. I was overly self conscious sometimes. This is something that has plagued me for years. I care too much what others think. In 2025, I'm the best version of myself that I have been in just doing my own thing. But these thoughts of the intense (imagined) gaze of others still latches onto me sometimes.

See you in 2026.

#endofyear #failures