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a stoic reflection on rejection

After going through rejection recently, I wanted to reflect and improve the way I handled the emotions and spiralling thoughts that come with experiences like this.

Here is a collection of quotes that helped me:

Practice relationships you have with others unconditionally1 2. Any prior expectations or hope can only lead to disappointment and loss.

"You seem to think the world owes you anything or is fair."

"No good expectations, no bad expectations. Just pure, unconditional love for those who mean a lot to me."

"It doesn't depend on you, it's entirely her choice and you did your part. Accept her choice, learn what you have to learn and move on."

"Hope is pain. Don’t ever hope for anything. It will leave you never hurt and always happy when more than the absolute bare minimum happen"

All relationships are temporary and fleeting. All we can do is make the most of the time that is given to us with them. Sometimes it's necessary to think about what you already have vs. what you may lose 3

"Consider them on loan from the universe. To be recalled at any moment and relish the time you have.

Consider every minute with them a gift, something to be compared with the almost certain period when they will be gone. If you appreciate fully the time you have; you will not waste it on trivial things."

"Enjoy the time while it lasts but don't force people to stay. They have their own lives to live."

I minimised regret and practiced my courage. However, there is always still a learning opportunity. 4 5

"You’ve also lost the uncertainty of not knowing and getting hung up on, β€œIf only I’d had the courage to ask….”. One of the lessons it took me a long time to learn was to fear regret more than failure."

"Failures are necessary to track progress in everything we do. Every time we fail, we progress, we level up. A string of failure is the only way to win."

  1. https://old.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/szwur8/how_to_cope_with_rejection/↩

  2. https://old.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/131nskh/i_just_got_rejected_any_tips_to_bear_with_the_pain/↩

  3. https://old.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/agmx0e/stoic_way_of_dealing_with_rejection/↩

  4. https://old.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/11yktwc/rejection/↩

  5. https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/wy3s9j/how_do_you_handle_rejection/↩

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